If you ever feel like you would want to expand your circle or try something new, remember that you can always just invite yourself to things.

Relationships are built on shared experiences, which can only be done by being present where they are experienced by the people you want to build friendships, partnerships or any other kinds of relationships with. The way you become a part of a group is simply by hanging out with the people in it. After a while it will just be assumed that you’ll be there.

Some groups are actively recruiting, while others can be more closed. However, if you hear people discuss plans in front of you or talk about something you are genuinely interested in, think of it as an implicit invitation to invite yourself to participate. Quite often it is. However, even when the implication wasn’t intentional, people are usually excited about people sharing their interests and open to connecting more deeply with such people.

In fact, these are the best kinds of invitations, as you don’t even need to decline if you’re not interested, and when you are, more often than not you can get to know likeminded people better while doing something fun. Showing interest is flattering, common direction makes you cool and being present builds bonds.

So go and invite yourself to that group hangout, on that trip, to that training session, to that friend’s house, to that conference, gathering or club. When turned down, try again once or twice on different occasions and then keep inviting yourself to other groups and activities.

High-agency people find each other by inviting themselves into each other’s lives.